Having Trouble Dating? You’re the Problem, Bro

When I first moved from Chicago to ski bum in Telluride, CO, I worked as a snowmaker. During a shift change, a pal of mine began to bark the dating cliché, worn especially thin in mountain towns: There are no women here. Before he could bemoan his point too long, our boss shot back, “It’s…

Trouble Dating the Problem
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g dating advice to women is a bad idea for several million reasons, not least of which is the fact that, like everything else mansplained to women, they already have it figured out.) And I can only speak to my dating experience as a straight white man experience meaning a rollercoaster that until very recently, after extensive work with a therapist, resembled the path of a drunken, peg-legged pirate wearing two eye patches. Along the bumpy ride I've only seen more and more evidence to support one truth: Striking out is due to your bad batting. That is to say, you are bad at dating.

Yes, dating is hard. It's an easy first retort, which translates to: Man, I can't find a woman who wants to listen to me talk about myself and nothing but myself. The other day, I joked about this to my cousin-in-law Graciela, who snapped eagerly back about just how obvious it is when she's speaking to a man, and the person you're talking to is preparing his response rather than actually listening. No surprise, she points out, the response usually has everything to do with him and nothing to do with you. My advice is to actually listen, because we can tell when you aren't.

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